They say romance is dead. I don’t believe that. I never have. There’s a reason I named my guest author blog Romance Lives Forever. Yes, I write about immortals, and for them, romance really does live forever. But I believe you can be married, and have romance.
I should know. I’ve been married 40 years as of last December. My marriage is a romantic one.
I’ll be the first to admit the main reason there is romance in my marriage is because my husband is a romantic person. He thinks to do things that I don’t, and I adore him for it. He doesn’t bring me flowers or buy me diamonds (drat) but he does bring me a glass of water while I’m working because he realized HE was thirsty and thought I might be. My husband thinks of my comfort when he’s tired. He gives a great backrub and foot massage. He is faithful to me. He blows kisses at me no matter who is looking. He holds my hand, and offers his arm when we cross the road or take a flight of stairs. He tells me he loves me every day. I’m completely spoiled by the way he treats me, and he knows it, because I tell him so. In return, I put him first.
It’s not the big things that count. When I do the laundry, I put his clothes in first, and then, if there’s room, I add mine. That way, his things are always clean. If he needs a shirt or a pair of pants, they’re ready. I know how he likes his tea, and I make it and take it to him. I buy the kind of peanut butter he likes, not what’s on sale. He loves sardines and crackers on Saturday, and I know the type he likes. I make sure the ginger snaps he prefers are in the cupboard. (Yes, I do feed him well. Maybe too well. *wink*) It’s the cumulation of many little things over a day, a week, and even a lifetime that show the other person you love them. That is romance.
Giving a backrub is one thing. Giving a listening ear is another. If you have a partner who does either one, grab onto him or her and don’t let go. I don’t have to tell you how hard it is to find someone who thinks of you ahead of themselves. If you are lucky and blessed enough to have that, give as good you get, and don’t look back.
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